Sunday, 5 April 2020

Six Things I Didn't Like About My Pregnancy

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Six Things I Didn't Like About My Pregnancy
This is my first pregnancy and I really did not have it that easy!
For an experience that is meant to be one of the most magical and special times in your life, it didn't half cause me some grief down the line. You would see everyone being pregnant with their cute little bumps and they would be absolutely glowing. Then there would be you, an actual lump with everything that could possible happen, happening, if you know what I mean? You wouldn't think it wouldn't happen, then it just kinda does. I wanted to enjoy my pregnancy and I just couldn't wait to give birth. It was emotional because I wanted it to be over, more for the fact of meeting my new baby boy, buy at the same time so everything would just go away. The labour went far smoother, even if I did have a 2nd degree tear, but that's a different story.

Bleed At 11 Weeks

Matt had just gone to his Dads to start work on his backgarden and I had just got up to get ready for the day. I went to the toilet as normal and there was quite a bit of blood on the tissue. I had just automatically thought of the worst possible and rang Matt. I was crying and panicking because I thought that the inevitable was happening. Matt quite literally dropped everything that he was doing and rushed home to be with me. I had rang the sister hospital to where I was going to give birth, as the other hospital was normally too busy to get through by phone and the nurses have internal numbers to speak to each other faster. But as it was a weekend and a Sunday, they wasn't open until Monday. I had to wait 24 hours for a scan, 24 excruciating hours of not knowing whether or not I had just miscarried my child.

The next day I attended my appointment, but rather than attend the antenatal clinic, my appointment was made with a gynaecologist, who would proceed to do a transvaginal exam on me rather than a normal abdominal scan. As soon as she inserted the wand inside me, little Zac popped up on the screen straight away and I could see his little heartbeat flickering. I automatically started crying and I was glad that everything was okay. This was just the start of many hospital visits and injections (I'll get to that part) - I found out that I had a weak spot inside my uterus and even me walking made me bleed!

Rhesus Negative Blood

One of the things they do when you're pregnant is test for what blood type you are. This is just in case that you happen to be rhesus negative, there's a small chance that your child could be positive. I had several bleeds since my 11 weeks of gestation and the anti-d injections to go with.

It basically means that if either of our bloods were to cross, as it stops my body building anti-bodies to reject my own baby if I ever had a bleed. My blood type happened to be A negative and each bleed I had resulted me in going to the hospital and having to receive an anti-D injection. These injections I wouldn't wish on anyone, as they really sting when you have them although they are worth it because without them, there was a small chance that my little boy wouldn't have survived. I am thankful that these injections exists. Luckily, after only a handful of times, the bleeding happened to stop.

Gestational Diabetes

I was diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes at around 12 weeks of pregnancy. I had attended a hospital appointment, where I had to have bloods taken, drink a glucose laden drink and wait for 2 hours for my body to do it's thing and then have another set of bloods taken hoping that my pancreas had done what it was supposed to (by creating insulin) and regulating my blood sugars. They test for this because there's a chance with someone who has been diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes, that they could have big babies and the babies could end up with diabetes too.

My body was kind of weird because most of the time, with anyone with gestational diabetes your blood sugars would start off relatively low and would then be higher after you've had the glucose drink as the pancreas is unable to produce enough insulin to regulate the sugar. But my blood sugars were higher than normal before the drink, my body had produced enough insulin and bought the sugars down. But as my sugars were 0.1 off at the start, this meant that I was a gestational diabetic.
The only time my bloods were really out of the ordinary was when I was ill and they had spiked to an almighty 12.3, but apart from that they were otherwise perfect and I was able to keep them stable by diet only. Although they had tried to put me on metformin and insulin.

PGP/SPD (Pelvic Girdle Pain/Symphysis Pubis Dyfunction) & Sciatica

Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction is a collection of uncomfortable symptoms caused by a stiffness of your pelvic joints or the joints moving unevenly at either the back or the front of your pelvis.

I was diagnosed with SPD quite late on in my pregnancy, although it was something that I had suffered with quite early on. I tried to manage it myself by taking paracetamol whenever I had suffered with a painful episode, but it got to the point that I just couldn't quite cope with the pain and it all got a bit too much. I found it quite hard to maneuver to places to the point where I was close to trying to get myself a wheelchair or crutches.

I found it quite difficult just to get off the sofa and at one point, I was dragging my legs across the floor and pulling myself to the toilet just to get to the toilet, screaming out in pain and being in tears in the process, I just had enough and the pain was unbearable. Probably thinking why didn't you do anything? By the time I got a referral for physio, I would have given birth and taken Zac home by then so I carried on. When the pain is bad though it felt like I was being pulled in different directions.

To add on top of all of that, I also suffered with sciatica, if I stood for too long my right leg went numb and pain radiated down my leg and it really hurt to walk with the mixture of SPD with it too. It made going anywhere a challenge, so I rested up as much as possible. I got shooting pains in my buttcheek and had to sit down to give my leg a break.

Water Infections

Nearly every water sample that was taken from me showed that there was Leukocytes/White Blood Cells or Protein in my waters. This meant that there was an infection there, but I had little to no symptoms off this. The first being that I had ecoli in my waters, not sure how that happened, but it did. So I got the talk of 'Wipe front to back', as you should do being a lady. So I was pretty much on antibiotics throughout my pregnancy.

Third Trimester Blues

I experienced third trimester blues - I was fed up, sick of not being able to sleep properly, tired of being in pain and not being able to roll over in bed without being in pain. I was constantly getting teary eyed and feelings of guilt because I couldn't do much. When I did attempt to do anything, I had to sit down after a while because I felt exhausted, the SPD and sciatic would kick in, I was exhausted from it all and I just wanted to sleep all the bloody time. I wrote this as my boyfriend slept away peacefully and I was sat in bed thinking when am I going to get to sleep and it made me sad just thinking about it!

I wrote all of this for my group The Mum Gang when I was currently pregnant and wanted to make a post out of it. I just wanted to say that not all pregnancies are like this and this is my own individual experience so no scaremongering going on here. But this is what happened to me and these are the things I didn't like. I was quite surprised my labour went so smooth, considering my pregnancy made me miserable.

I was ready to give birth at this point. I can honestly say the only part of pregnancy I did enjoy is feeling my baby boy move and I really couldn't wait to meet him. But everything else had just made me not enjoy something that’s meant to be so beautiful and amazing. I was feeling very anxious about being a mother and scared of what my labour was going to be like, little did I know the giving birth experience for me was a breeze.
*Disclaimer:  All honest opinions, words and photographs are that of my own.

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  1. I've never been pregnant but always find it interesting to read about other people's experiences! Sounds like you definitely had your fair share of things to deal with during your pregnancy! x

  2. This is such a relatable post! I feel like everyone makes pregnancy out to be the best thing ever and I am sure it is for a lot of people but like yourself, it caused me some grief. I was placed on bed rest at 6 months and it was horrid! That's when my fibromyalgia really got worse and from there is was a horrid experience. Thank you for sharing your story as I am sure a lot of other people with find it comforting to know they aren't alone.

    Jordanne ||


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